Not that I am not a romantic person.. but frankly I could never understand why we make such a big issue about Valentines day!! I mean if you are in love.... you are in love... you don't need a specific day to remind yourself and make your partner feel special ...! At the same time if one really wants to dedicate a single day for love... whats the harm... why do we make that such a big deal...???
Anyways.... this puzzle is for the more informed and wiser people to solve..
What prompted me to write this post today are some pictures that a friend of mine had posted on her Val day celebrations with her husband...! An exotic location and dinner by the seaside.... and that is surely romantic! I couldn't stop myself getting envious.... but then that's about it.
My mind rolled back to the days in college when "the" girlfriends would spend hours getting beautiful for that special dinner date with their respective boyfriends...!! I could never really get the idea as to how can you have dinner with the same guy almost every day and yet call the Val day dinner special?? I mean logically it doesnt! Once a room mate of mine enlightened me... Valentines day dinner is all about love ... !! Wheew.... I almost saw a halo behind her...!
Aaah Cmon! How can you be nice and goody one day and come back to fights and mistrusts the next day and call yourself being in love?? I found all that very dumb... and I still feel the same about it.
I recall this incident about a friend's Valentines day! Dressed in white and baby pink she looked heavenly.. (she was otherwise too very pretty)... and so in her own words she had the best valentines day dinner... and the most romantic one at it!! (wherever it was... at least she admired it!)... good!! Her smiles and blushes were obviously making her statements very real....! and I am sure it would have been!! But then the very next day the couple had a serious argument and they broke up the following week! whew! Now that is something I couldn't understand! I mean was I naive then... or was all college love tales going like this! I really didn't know... !! I can shamelessly admit that the only time I had a boyfriend to "celebrate" valentines day was when we both were separated by our busy education schedules.... (I was training and finishing my mid term on the job training and he being my senior was back in college), so I could never really understand the funda on Valentines day dinner... and the funda... "love is in the air" and "its all about love"!!
Even now ... after 8 years of marriage( which makes it 8 Valentine's days with my life partner) and two kids.... I still don't understand whats the big deal about "The Valentine's day dinner"
But then these are my thoughts.. I am sure when my kids grow up, they will go for their respective valentine dates... I hope at least by then I'll have an idea.... whats the whole deal about the "valentine day's dinner"!!
PS: I wasn't envious about my friend's dinner because it was Valentine's day.... had she gone to this place any other day.. I would have been equally envious....
Monday, February 15, 2010
Tuesday, February 9, 2010
PLAN...EXECUTE and REVIEW!!
In school and college I have always been taught to PLAN and EXECUTE and REVIEW my actions
When I look back today... and look at life...till now ... it looks like I have been such a bad planner.... a worse executor and needless to say the "review" part never really happenned!!
School - When in school, I was a freak who loved geography and history as subjects and hated physics and chemistry, so I always thought I will become an archeologist by profession! After my 10th exams.. I was set to take up arts as my stream for junior college but ... my father's posting and the schools in that place took away that option completely! So I ended up taking commerce as my stream and completed my school! While still in school I drifted from history and geography and was wanting to take up psychology as a subject for graduation... but in between came the fascination for food and my interest in that took me to my graduation in Hotel Management!
Coming to think of it... I really never planned to take up Hotel management as a career option!!
College... i joined to learn more about the fascinating world of food, but ended up hating large scale cooking concepts and inclined towards the other world of hotels... the Rooms management! Thankfully during my campus selection days I got placed with a premier hotel chain in India and my second job saw me flourishing at work. This was the time when I was getting laurels for my work and almost everybody knew me by name and face in the hotel I was employed with...
Coming to think of it.... I really never planned to win accolades and become well known in such a short span... but it just happened!
Marriage .... Just when I thought something was going fine... marriage happened. Marriage was probably the best thing to happen ..... but coming to think I really never planned to get married so fast.... but it just happened that I met my Mr. Right very early!
Career ... Marriage also made me come face to face with harsh realities!! Reality that my working in hotels was not liked by family members! So I kept changing jobs.... whichever I found attractive and different.. so that I could at least learn something new. This inquisitive attitude and "I can learn and do everything" attitude landed me with my biggest professional blunder... a job I should have probably refused when offerred!
So there I go again..... No Planning ....!! forget execution.... !!
Then came Children... Our first one happened after I got treated for some serious hormonal imbalances.... so the first child was competely planned!! (at least some where I used the planning action!) but the second one happened when I was still to cross the planning phase.... !! So there I go again ...... No planning... but he is such an angel and sweetie pie that I am glad the idea got executed well!! :))
So why am I writing these things today...!! Because I think somewhere down the lane... I feel i have changed so much as a person after marriage and children. I could never see myself as someone confined to the four walls of home and baby sitting... but thats what I am doing now! 10 years back... career was so much on priority list ... and 10 years later I have achieved nothing in life! whew....!
Then I thought... I can always start working again... what should stop me....!! But with my children around ... i can never get comfortable with office environment... I would be physically in office but mentally.. I would be at home...!! So thinking of working again 4 years after leaving the corporate world.... seems very scary and unattractive! Possibilities of working from home... seems negligible and even if there are any... god knows how much can I concentrate on work with two small kids at home!
It was when .. I was pondering about work and how to get financially independent again when i saw my two kids laughing and playing with each other.. fighting and crying... both of them trying to get my attention to compain about the other....(the younger one who is 9 months old uses "amma" for evrything these days!!).. I realised that I can never trade even a fat pay check from a fortune 50 company for such small incidents that happen at home... nothing can bring back these sweet moments and the joy that these bring to my heart
So... no matter how much I plan...... I (may) never execute them... even if I do execute... I (may) never review them!! Gosh... thank god I am not a Management Grad from a reupted college... I could be such a bad example for planning and executing and reviewing!!!
When I look back today... and look at life...till now ... it looks like I have been such a bad planner.... a worse executor and needless to say the "review" part never really happenned!!
School - When in school, I was a freak who loved geography and history as subjects and hated physics and chemistry, so I always thought I will become an archeologist by profession! After my 10th exams.. I was set to take up arts as my stream for junior college but ... my father's posting and the schools in that place took away that option completely! So I ended up taking commerce as my stream and completed my school! While still in school I drifted from history and geography and was wanting to take up psychology as a subject for graduation... but in between came the fascination for food and my interest in that took me to my graduation in Hotel Management!
Coming to think of it... I really never planned to take up Hotel management as a career option!!
College... i joined to learn more about the fascinating world of food, but ended up hating large scale cooking concepts and inclined towards the other world of hotels... the Rooms management! Thankfully during my campus selection days I got placed with a premier hotel chain in India and my second job saw me flourishing at work. This was the time when I was getting laurels for my work and almost everybody knew me by name and face in the hotel I was employed with...
Coming to think of it.... I really never planned to win accolades and become well known in such a short span... but it just happened!
Marriage .... Just when I thought something was going fine... marriage happened. Marriage was probably the best thing to happen ..... but coming to think I really never planned to get married so fast.... but it just happened that I met my Mr. Right very early!
Career ... Marriage also made me come face to face with harsh realities!! Reality that my working in hotels was not liked by family members! So I kept changing jobs.... whichever I found attractive and different.. so that I could at least learn something new. This inquisitive attitude and "I can learn and do everything" attitude landed me with my biggest professional blunder... a job I should have probably refused when offerred!
So there I go again..... No Planning ....!! forget execution.... !!
Then came Children... Our first one happened after I got treated for some serious hormonal imbalances.... so the first child was competely planned!! (at least some where I used the planning action!) but the second one happened when I was still to cross the planning phase.... !! So there I go again ...... No planning... but he is such an angel and sweetie pie that I am glad the idea got executed well!! :))
So why am I writing these things today...!! Because I think somewhere down the lane... I feel i have changed so much as a person after marriage and children. I could never see myself as someone confined to the four walls of home and baby sitting... but thats what I am doing now! 10 years back... career was so much on priority list ... and 10 years later I have achieved nothing in life! whew....!
Then I thought... I can always start working again... what should stop me....!! But with my children around ... i can never get comfortable with office environment... I would be physically in office but mentally.. I would be at home...!! So thinking of working again 4 years after leaving the corporate world.... seems very scary and unattractive! Possibilities of working from home... seems negligible and even if there are any... god knows how much can I concentrate on work with two small kids at home!
It was when .. I was pondering about work and how to get financially independent again when i saw my two kids laughing and playing with each other.. fighting and crying... both of them trying to get my attention to compain about the other....(the younger one who is 9 months old uses "amma" for evrything these days!!).. I realised that I can never trade even a fat pay check from a fortune 50 company for such small incidents that happen at home... nothing can bring back these sweet moments and the joy that these bring to my heart
So... no matter how much I plan...... I (may) never execute them... even if I do execute... I (may) never review them!! Gosh... thank god I am not a Management Grad from a reupted college... I could be such a bad example for planning and executing and reviewing!!!
Monday, February 8, 2010
Getting tagged..... Nothing could be funnier!!
I got tagged by Life_Refactored.... Answering these questions got me back to my school and college days when we friends maintained something called a slambook..! What happened with my slam book... I guess Raat Gayi baat gayi!1 Anyways.... heres what I have to write!
1. What is your current obsession?
Blogging and running behind my kids!
2. What are you wearing today?
Green Salwar Kameez
3. You are on your deathbed and you want to judge your life. How would you.
how well a role model have I been to my children!!
4. What’s the last thing you bought?
4 sets of salwar kameez ......
5. What are you listening to right now?
Uff teri nazar--- Karthik Calling Karthik
6. What do you think about the person who tagged you?
The best thing to happen to me ... :)
7. If you could have a house totally paid for, fully furnished anywhere in the world, where would you like it to be?
Coorg - amidst coffee estates....!! hmmm....
8. What are your must-have pieces for summer?
Tang Orange Juice / cotton kurtis and long skirts
9. If you could go anywhere in the world for the next hour, where would you go?
Egypt and/or Greece......( Anybody listening!)
10. Which language do you want to learn?
Tamil - to write and Read... at least to teach my kids when they learn it in school!
Bengali - I think it is one of the sweetest languages in India!
11. What’s your favourite quote?
Smile... and the world will smile with you... and Smile ! It costs nothing
12. Who do you want to meet right now?
Kailash Surendranath - to tell him that the latest version of Mile Sur mera tumhara sucks big time!
13. What is your favourite colour?
PURPLE and BLUE
14. Give us 3 styling tips that work for you.
Long Wrap around Skirt with Kurti !
Well draped saree for any ocassion with minimal jewellery!
Kohl in my eyes!
15. What is your dream job?
Any travel talk show....! I get to see places.. meet new people and learn new things! Wow life cant be better!
16. What’s your favorite magazine?
Cooking and More - Tarla Dalal, Filmfare,Parenting,Outlook Traveller.
17. If you had $100 now, what would you spend it on?
A valentine gift for my dear hubby ,a dress for my daughter and a drum for my son !
18. What do you consider a fashion faux pas?
Women wearing jeans / skirts with bindi on their forehead and flowers in their hair.
19. Is exercise a part of your daily routine? If so, what kind of exercise is it?
Yep.... if running behind two demanding kids is considered exercise!!
20. What kind of haircut do you prefer?
Straight and simple
21. What are you going to do after this?
Sleep!
22. What are your favourite movies?
DDLJ, Lakshya,Swades,Dil Chahta hai, Mozhi,Jab we met
23. What inspires you?
A good conversation with my father and Ramayana
24. What do your friends call you most commonly?
Nits
25. Would you prefer coffee or tea?
TEA!
26. What do you do when you are feeling low or terribly depressed?
Cry and throw tantrums
27. What makes you go wild?
K... when she doesnt listen to me! and doesnt clear up after playing!
28. Which other blogs do you love visiting?
hmm......!! quite a few... though I love to read random blogs
29. Favorite Dessert/Sweet?
Khubaani ka meetha, Gulab Jamun.
30. Do you believe in fate and destiny ?
Yes.
31. Favorite Season?
Rains
32. If I come to your house now, what would u cook for me?
Home made chocolate cake and tea(or coffee!!)
33. What is the right way to avoid people who purposefully hurt you?
Ignore them!
34. What are you afraid of the most?
Height.... thats the reason I couldnt enjoy AvATAR! I surely have acrophobia!
35. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought?
when will I ever lose that flab?
36. What brings a smile on your face instantly??
K's version of sita in ashoka vatika!
38. What would you do if you were made PM of India for one day?
Eat drink and sleep.... what else can you do in a day cmon!!
39. What is that one thing that keeps you going.
Hope for a better tommorrow.
40. Whats one thing that you used to love that you left
CAREER!! Cant say bakery anymore ...!!
41. What would be your reaction, if you come to know that today is the last day of your life
Pray that my children and hubby have the courage to move on..... and live an honest life
42. What are your hobbies?
Music,Bakery,painting.....! (I do none right now!)
43. What do you hate about yourself?
Taking my parents too much for granted!
44. Your favourite animation character (or cartoon)
Little Krishna (Courtesy Big Animation and Nick Channel)
Rules for those who are tagged:
Respond and rework – answer these questions on your blog, replace one question that you dislike with a question of your own, and add one more question to the list. Then tag others :)
I tag
www.karasevai.blogspot.com
www.ssstoryteller.blogspot.com
1. What is your current obsession?
Blogging and running behind my kids!
2. What are you wearing today?
Green Salwar Kameez
3. You are on your deathbed and you want to judge your life. How would you.
how well a role model have I been to my children!!
4. What’s the last thing you bought?
4 sets of salwar kameez ......
5. What are you listening to right now?
Uff teri nazar--- Karthik Calling Karthik
6. What do you think about the person who tagged you?
The best thing to happen to me ... :)
7. If you could have a house totally paid for, fully furnished anywhere in the world, where would you like it to be?
Coorg - amidst coffee estates....!! hmmm....
8. What are your must-have pieces for summer?
Tang Orange Juice / cotton kurtis and long skirts
9. If you could go anywhere in the world for the next hour, where would you go?
Egypt and/or Greece......( Anybody listening!)
10. Which language do you want to learn?
Tamil - to write and Read... at least to teach my kids when they learn it in school!
Bengali - I think it is one of the sweetest languages in India!
11. What’s your favourite quote?
Smile... and the world will smile with you... and Smile ! It costs nothing
12. Who do you want to meet right now?
Kailash Surendranath - to tell him that the latest version of Mile Sur mera tumhara sucks big time!
13. What is your favourite colour?
PURPLE and BLUE
14. Give us 3 styling tips that work for you.
Long Wrap around Skirt with Kurti !
Well draped saree for any ocassion with minimal jewellery!
Kohl in my eyes!
15. What is your dream job?
Any travel talk show....! I get to see places.. meet new people and learn new things! Wow life cant be better!
16. What’s your favorite magazine?
Cooking and More - Tarla Dalal, Filmfare,Parenting,Outlook Traveller.
17. If you had $100 now, what would you spend it on?
A valentine gift for my dear hubby ,a dress for my daughter and a drum for my son !
18. What do you consider a fashion faux pas?
Women wearing jeans / skirts with bindi on their forehead and flowers in their hair.
19. Is exercise a part of your daily routine? If so, what kind of exercise is it?
Yep.... if running behind two demanding kids is considered exercise!!
20. What kind of haircut do you prefer?
Straight and simple
21. What are you going to do after this?
Sleep!
22. What are your favourite movies?
DDLJ, Lakshya,Swades,Dil Chahta hai, Mozhi,Jab we met
23. What inspires you?
A good conversation with my father and Ramayana
24. What do your friends call you most commonly?
Nits
25. Would you prefer coffee or tea?
TEA!
26. What do you do when you are feeling low or terribly depressed?
Cry and throw tantrums
27. What makes you go wild?
K... when she doesnt listen to me! and doesnt clear up after playing!
28. Which other blogs do you love visiting?
hmm......!! quite a few... though I love to read random blogs
29. Favorite Dessert/Sweet?
Khubaani ka meetha, Gulab Jamun.
30. Do you believe in fate and destiny ?
Yes.
31. Favorite Season?
Rains
32. If I come to your house now, what would u cook for me?
Home made chocolate cake and tea(or coffee!!)
33. What is the right way to avoid people who purposefully hurt you?
Ignore them!
34. What are you afraid of the most?
Height.... thats the reason I couldnt enjoy AvATAR! I surely have acrophobia!
35. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought?
when will I ever lose that flab?
36. What brings a smile on your face instantly??
K's version of sita in ashoka vatika!
38. What would you do if you were made PM of India for one day?
Eat drink and sleep.... what else can you do in a day cmon!!
39. What is that one thing that keeps you going.
Hope for a better tommorrow.
40. Whats one thing that you used to love that you left
CAREER!! Cant say bakery anymore ...!!
41. What would be your reaction, if you come to know that today is the last day of your life
Pray that my children and hubby have the courage to move on..... and live an honest life
42. What are your hobbies?
Music,Bakery,painting.....! (I do none right now!)
43. What do you hate about yourself?
Taking my parents too much for granted!
44. Your favourite animation character (or cartoon)
Little Krishna (Courtesy Big Animation and Nick Channel)
Rules for those who are tagged:
Respond and rework – answer these questions on your blog, replace one question that you dislike with a question of your own, and add one more question to the list. Then tag others :)
I tag
www.karasevai.blogspot.com
www.ssstoryteller.blogspot.com
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